Day 7 – “Love”

Our wedding photographer, Nathaniel, gave us one of the sweetest gifts on our wedding day – “The Meaning of Marriage” by Timothy Keller with Kathy Keller.

I started reading it on the beach today and while I have only read about a third of the book, I highly recommend it to all of those who are married and single. It is such a powerful read and it makes you really think deep about love and God. I think this might take me awhile to read as I keep going back and reading pages over and over.

“You Never Marry the Right Person” pg. 37
Keller writes that the Christian answer is that no two people are compatible. He quotes Stanley Hauerwas, a Duke University ethics professor, on this topic:
‘Destructive to marriage is the self-fulfillment ethic that assumes marriage and the family are primarily institutions of personal fulfillment, necessary for us to become  “whole” and happy. The assumption is that there is someone just right for us to marry and that if we look closely enough we will find the right person. This moral assumption overlooks a crucial aspect to marriage. It fails to appreciate the fact that we always marry the wrong person.

We never know whom we marry; we just think we do. Or even if we first marry the right person, just give it a while and he or she will change. For marriage, being [the enormous thing it is] means we are not the same person after we have entered it. The primary problem is… learning how to love and care for the stranger to whom you find yourself married.”

Woke up around 4:30AM and went out for a walk on the island to watch the sunrise.

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